Hello! Lately, as I've been working on my lucid dreaming practices, I've noticed that in a fair bit of my lucid dreams I've had a glaring problem and that problem is called a disconnect. In my more recent lucid dreams, I've been more focused on handling my emotions, which is great as I used to not have a grip on them, but even when I eventually do calm down and get to a more workable baseline, expectations are weird to work with and fully control.
For example - the other week I had a lucid where I started to overthink an expectation that I've long had, which led to the dream being confusing and arguably the dreaming turning back into a non-lucid one. This dream expectation (this one particularly helpful dreamling being in a house very close to me) was fighting against a fact that distance doesn't exist in a dream. In the past, it was simple to visit this dreamling but this night my overthinking mind was present. There's also more examples where I've been so focused on trying to keep my emotions in check that I often don't do anything in the lucid because I'm too focused on how emotions can increase the likelihood of the dream becoming non-lucid.
Now that we have some background out of the way, I started thinking about how to handle this so that I could have an easier time when trying to accomplish my dream goals. One idea that I thought up was (and not sure if anyone else has so sorry if I'm repeating someone else's idea!) for a personal "rules" list, with the rules being common expectations that are held in most lucid dreams. Referring back to the previous example, that particular expectation has been around for a while and has been useful for me in the past. I started writing down my own rules list in my dream journal but, after getting through a few expectations, something felt off.
On the positive side of this idea, it would allow for one to firmly know their expectations and treat the dream world like the real world, just with a new set of rules. It could prevent overthinking and confusion as one could fully expect those things to happen. It could also help one in situations where issues have popped up in the past, making handling them a little easier.
On the negative side (and possibly the reason I felt that this was a bit "wrong" to do), doing this can take away from the dreamworld and can cause new mind viruses to form. Not only this but one could start taking these as fact and become limited by their own rules.
Rules are meant to be broken after all and I only started thinking of writing down expectations I have as a "rules" list as that helps me understand what's "right" and "wrong". With these pros and cons, that brings us to my question - would this be a helpful, hurtful, or neutral tool to use? I intended to use it as a list of common expectations to get over mind viruses and common obstacles that come up while in lucids but I can see how limited this could be in regards to limits on dream control. Any input would be much appreciated as I am genuinely interested to see others thoughts. I again apologize if this has already been covered. I also apologize if this got a bit to rambling as I'm typing this up in somewhat of a distracted state!
Also, sorry if this is in the wrong thread - just seemed like the closest one to what I was asking!